If you look around at friends and the people you know, the chances are that there will be a few recognisable types in there. Most women have a pretty friend who can barely walk down the street without attracting admirers, and who is never short of a date. And many men know someone, usually not the best looking in the crowd, who has just the perfect combination of cheek and charm, and always has the most gorgeous women captivated on a night out.
Very obviously those friends and acquaintances have natural gifts. But a true accomplishment is acquiring the skills and knowledge to maintain a quality relationship. Here are 7 ways to do it:
# 1 know yourself
The emphasis of this article is on 'quality relationship'. Just about anyone can spin out a relationship which disappoints them, or in which they don't feel valued, but maintaining a quality relationship requires you to know yourself and what you can offer a partner.
Getting to know yourself has been described as the most difficult and inconvenient thing to do. But the rewards are great. If you know yourself you will be happy in yourself, whether you are in a relationship or not.
# 2 understand compatibility
Not everyone you meet will be perfect in a relationship with you. If you have know yourself or have taken steps towards understanding your own personality, for example by taking an eHarmony personality quiz, then you will have a good idea about how to choose a compatible partner with whom you can maintain a quality relationship.
# 3 be kind
Kindness is a personal quality and an attitude of mind that is probably the single most important thing in maintaining quality relationships. If your relationship is working then treat your partner with kindness, so they feel cherished. And what goes around comes around.
#4 give & take
Knowing yourself and understanding others will give you the confidence to give and take in a relationship. The balance between the two is important. There has to be both give and take for a relationship to be real quality.
It's harder than you think to just stop talking or thinking about yourself, and to genuinely listen to what your partner has to say. But if you can do it you will learn a lot more about them, and appreciate their genuine qualities so much better.
# 6 act
Sometimes, whether you are male or female, your partner will appreciate you taking the initiative in a relationship. It demonstrates that you share a quality relationship – one that you don't take for granted.
# 7 enjoy
Enjoyment is an essential part of a quality relationship. If you are not enjoying the hard work of maintaining your quality relationship then it may just be time to get yourself to eHarmony to find a new, and truly compatible, partner.
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